Liars, cheats, copycats and thieves come in many forms, but since the Internet has come into play, there has been a steep rise in one particular liar, cheat and thieve, and that is Plagiarists. The Internet has made it so easy to gather information on any subject of your choosing, and to easily copy that information, including an entire Website, with a few short clicks on your keyboard - to use as your own.
I have two blogs which are less than a year old, “Valley of the Subconscious “, and “Open Your Heart to the Love”, both of which I work very hard on. The articles I write and display there, are both researched, and come from my heart and soul. Unfortunately, in the short time since they were born, I have run into plagiarists a couple of times. The last time was from a member of this site. The article is titled, “Toxic Humans”, and was stolen from my article titled, “Don’t Let Toxic People Thrive on You”, I have to chuckle to myself as I think about how ironic it is, that a “toxic person” would steal an article that talks about not allowing, that very person, to thrive on you. It appears that this article was admired by several people, as the first comment left there was a request to use it. To which I responded with an unyielding “No” - they are my words.
Ms. Smith, while I am flattered that you admired my article so much it lead you to steal my words, however, you stole part of my soul - a part of me, and I must insist that you remove this article, and my words from your blog on this site, and any other site you have seen fit to post them.
For those of you that have sites, or write articles for the Internet, there are some tools that you can utilize to find the liars, cheats and thieves that go by the name of plagiarists, to not only find, but also to pursue those that choose this form of thievery.
HOW DO YOU GET OVER YOUR PAST (AND PAST YOUR MARRIAGE PROBLEMS)
Are you hurting? Has your spouse neglected you? Rejected you? Emotionally abused you?
Are you struggling to get over the pain of an affair?
If you’re having marital trouble, the chances are good that you need to put some hurt behind you.
It’s one of the most common questions I get. “Mort, I want to make my marriage work. But how do I get over the past?”
Here’s the key.
The first step is to realize what you’re REALLY trying to accomplish. What does it REALLY mean to get over the past?
You can’t change what happened. There’s no time machine that can send you back to relive the past. What’s done is done.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that your situation is hopeless. What I’m saying is that you first have to be clear about what you can and cannot change. You CAN get over your past (as I’ll explain). But you canNOT change events that already occurred.
The good news though is that you don’t have to change the past in order to get over it. What you have to change is the MEANING of the past.
Think for a moment. Was there ever a time in your life when something horrible happened and you thought, “Why is this happening to me?” But then a few years later you looked back and you answered that question. In retrospect, you understood why it happened. At first, it seemed like the world was caving in. Later, it wasn’t so bad.
In fact, very often, we eventually realize that bad times are part of a process that leads to something good!
It’s the events that FOLLOW bad times that determine the ultimate meaning of those times. In other words, it’s your future that determines your past; not the other way around. And since YOU are in charge of your future, then YOU determine the meaning of your past.
It’s interesting to think about this in the context of an age-old question: Do we have free choice or is everything predetermined? The answer is YES. Everything is predetermined AND we have free choice.
It’s like when you play a card game. You get dealt a hand. And you have no control over the cards you get dealt. It’s predetermined.
But you also get to play that hand. You also have free choice.
Ultimately, it’s the COMBINATION of the hand you’re dealt and the way you play it that determines the outcome. And it’s the outcome that shapes your view of the original hand you were dealt.
I don’t know if you’re familiar with the Bible, but it’s interesting to note that in Chapter 1 of Genesis, God says, “Let US make man in our image.” Look at that verse again: “Let US make man in our image.” Who is “us?” Who is God talking to? There wasn’t anyone created yet.
The answer is: God is talking to US. He’s talking to me. He’s talking to YOU. And He’s saying that YOU are partners with Him in the creation of your life.
God deals you a hand. There’s nothing you can do to change that. But you get to play that hand. You get to respond to the events of your life. And it’s your response, your actions in the future, which determine the meaning of the events in your past.
So how do you get over the past? You don’t have to get over the past. The past is over! What’s important is the MEANING the past has for you NOW. And the MEANING of your past is determined by your actions in the future.
The people I know who have the best marriages are people who went through hell in their relationship. They “got over” their past because they used it as a catalyst to IMPROVE their situation. In other words, the painful events inspired them to change themselves and their marriage. And many people I know began this process WITHOUT their spouse.
If you make the right moves, you will come to view certain events as birth pains that led to a new AND IMPROVED marriage. THAT’S how you “get over” the past.
It’s strange how life works sometimes, but if you play your hand right, your hurts become part of your healing. And, in fact, when it comes to relationships, it’s usually bad times that awaken people to search for new ways.
I know you’re hurting. But if you’ll allow me to show you how to rebuild your marriage, show you new ways, your hurt will heal. I can’t make the past go away. But I can help you give it a new meaning. Then, you’ll be “over it.” And you’ll have a GOOD answer to the question: Why did this happen to me?
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Mort Fertel Author of Marriage Fitness Marriage Coach
When a friend's son was in a terrible accident and spent several weeks in a coma, emerging with brain damage, I began researching the brain. One thing led to another and another. The makings of the subconscious mind are mysterious to most of us, and many people do not realize that it is the subconscious mind that is what actually controls many of our behaviors and conscious thoughts and reactions. Do you dare to travel with me inside your mind and learn who you really are?
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