“Marrying The Wrong Woman Can Ruin A Good Man’s Life” is a headline of an old newspaper article.
The article went on to say, “Men don’t perceive women as dangerous because they are often pretty, accommodating and exciting to be around. Yet, the danger some pose is greater than some men can imagine.”
The article continues, “Men should set certain standards that the women in their lives must meet and men should refuse to associate with women who don’t meet those standards. Never should a man look at the abundant supply of women and try to take as many samples as possible, because when physical attraction takes over, common sense goes on vacation, so that one night with the wrong woman can ruin the best of men.”
Think that’s an overstatement?
Not too long ago I mentioned in one of my posts about a really ugly incident that happened to me – a family I knew have without any prior consultation, without obtaining any prior consent, approval; with mischievous intents and purposes used one of my photographs and super-reimposed my image into their family photograph.
When I visited them just before this Chinese New Year, the old man had the cheek to ask if I wanted to see photo? I answered, “What photo?” Then he showed me this family photograph -with my image in it. At that instant, what immediately came into my mind is, “Are they trying to blackmail me now?” I was shocked, sad, disappointed and wondered what’s next? I could not believe a family like them could stoop so low in doing things the way they deemed fit.
As I gentlemanly handed back the photograph to the old lady, I asked, “Auntie why do you have to do things like this?” Pointing at the photograph she said, “This is good” as she continued taking the photograph away from my pair of trembling hands, gestured with her thumb up and smiled.
Now, do you think I have the right to feel offended for the injustice they had intentionally done to me?
Do I also have the right to voice and register this uncalled for scandal with the relevant Authorities?
And last but not least, do I not have the basic right to demand that necessary actions be taken immediately to rectify such an unethical and morally wrong act?
Unfortunately, very unfortunately, the cold truth is there are people who still chooses to remain adamant, unwilling to take any positive action and let you suffer in pain and undergo mental torture with their couldn’t care less attitude.
The best part is, just a few days ago, I am being labeled as being childish for asking them to tender a formal apology. But, don’t you think this family had erred in the first place? And don’t you think that it is morally and legally wrong to super-reimpose another person’s image into any photograph without first obtaining consent?
As if that is not enough, they have the cheek to say, “We are not even uploading your photo into the internet. What we are doing is only displaying the photograph in our house.” You see, are they not arrogant to say the least? They don’t even realize what a grave mistake they made and the consequences they may have to face one day.
Do you think the hurt inflicted upon me can heal over time? Solving such sensitive problems need not be complicating or sophisticated. Being genuinely sincere in wanting to solve the matter is the first step. Exercise immediate damage control and take the bull by the horns at soonest possible. Acknowledge that things happen because of your own actions. Stop blaming others. It is no other people’s fault. The first step is to look within.
Indeed, to be humble is a very difficult thing because we have such strong egos that apologizing is difficult. But don’t you think not apologizing creates a distance between the concerned parties? I believe problems disappear only if you are one with others – don’t you think when you are distant with others, trying to solve the problem, rather than the relationship, there’s an even worse problem?
